Ladies: Are you a Damsel in Distress?

by May 15, 2013 at 10:00 am 1 Comment

From Farrah Joon. Check out her blog, sexandfessenjoon. Email her at farrah[AT], follow her on Twitter @Farrah_Joon.


Damsel in Distress in a world of man’s. (Luis Gomez Photos)

I have a bone to pick with my fellow female counterparts — while I’m sure many men have similar qualities, I’m taking a little break from men right now (or rather, they’re taking a break from me…).

Women are continuously referred to as bossy and more emotional — we’re constantly fighting against the stereotype that our actions are somehow weaker than men’s.

Yet despite these arguments, there are so many times that we embody the exact version of ourselves that we claim not to be.

The Damsel in Distress

These dames aren’t just asking for help — they’re whining for it: “Can you do this for meeee?”

Omggg I can’t figure out what’s wrong with the printer… Help meeee.

I’m guilty of asking for help with the printer. Why can’t it just work all the time?

Personally, I think damsels are lazy people. Are you telling me that you can’t read an instruction manual?

I ask for help with the printer only because I know it will take longer to read the directions. You’ll never learn if you’re always asking someone else to do your work for you. The whole “fake it till you make it” thing doesn’t always fly in the long run.

The Drama Queen

Ladies if your boyfriend cheats — then yes, who wouldn’t be livid? There are certain life events that transform into such a big deal that a little drama is unavoidable. Those aren’t drama queens.

Drama queens are the girls who still cry about things they’d cried about in high school. The “omg she’s dating my crush” shenanigans that really makes me cringe.

If I crushed on every man I thought was attractive and added them to my imaginary “list,” believe me, there wouldn’t be anyone left in DC for my friends to date (not a lotta fish in the sea, you dig).

Why are we wasting energy on the less important aspects of our seemingly vast lives? We’re not victims, so we shouldn’t be getting upset over things that are not worth our time.


It’s unfortunate that women have to prove themselves slightly more than men do. We live in a man’s world and frankly, we’ve succumbed to the rules (in some ways more than others).

We’re constantly proving our capabilities and our willingness to get things done — whether we’re stay-at-home mothers or an executive at a major company, we all have responsibilities at which we want to excel.

I find that there’s a lot of corruption in life — I read about it in our politics, business corruption…something is always going down. But I’ve realized that the truth always comes out. And if that’s the case then we should always be honest about ourselves. Be upfront about who we are — none of this taking credit for someone else’s work or joke or idea — instead offer the strengths we already have.

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